Five things that are most important to me in a future mate.
I am not currently looking for a "mate". Right now, it's most important to me to become the best woman I can be by focusing on my relationship with God, my kids, my career with work and school, to serve others, improve my family relationships and strengthen my current friendships as well as make new ones--male and female. Of course, I would reprioriize all of this if Shemar Moore realized I was the perfect woman for him! ha ha Just a little humor!
I trust that in due time God will reveal His plan for the rest of my life. Whether or not that involves a mate remains to be seen and I've accepted that because I know what He has for me is far better than any plans I could have for myself!
But to play along with the challenge, if God were to bring about a special someone for me, God already knows that he must possess the following:
1) Love God with all his heart and want to serve him by serving others. He will want to pray for me and with me and I know that with Christ at the center of our relationship, it will not be easily destroyed, as my marriage was. "A cord of three strands (man, wife, God) is not easily broken." --T.D. Jakes
2) A sense of humor for laughter is good medicine. He has to be able to laugh at my silliness as well as at himself and not take the small stuff too seriously.
3) A shared passion for college football and preferably an Alabama fan. I can live with a fan of another team as long as he isn't too overbearing about it and doesn't try to change me. After all, I'm not only a long-time, die-hard fan, I'm a mom to one student already and soon to be two!
4) The ability to prioritize and plan. I don't expect him to be perfect about everything and I know plans sometimes fall through. And spontaneity is good also. But I like to be able to set goals and work towards them even if I change my mind at some point. I don't want someone that has no ambition at all to even leave the house several days in a row!
5) His own interests. As great as it is to have common interests and passions, it's good to keep some things for oneself--things that he enjoys doing with alone or with friends. I'm not the type of girlfriend/wife that is too clingy. After all, I have my own life to live as well. A shared life doesn't mean being joined at the hip 24/7!
Of course there are other things I look for. I've always been drawn to nice eyes, good hygiene (especially a good smelling man!) and some attempt to be healthy. I don't care so much about a gut (as long as it's just ONE gut and not two or three!) and I'm definitely not the diet police. But everything in moderation.
I also LOVE a good kisser! Soft lips, gentle tongue...okay that's enough there. This is a grown-up and Christian blog now! ;)
Good manners are also important. Open doors, pull out chairs and pump gas! LOL
Most importantly, I have always believed and still do, that it's a chemistry thing. It can't be faked. It's either there or it isn't. But just because there is chemistry there doesn't mean the relationship is God's will. From now on, for the rest of my life, I will ALWAYS seek His perfect will for my life and for those in it.
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