Sunday, January 15, 2017

January blog challenge--more thoughts about lists!

I am a list person. I have an app on my phone called "Wunderlist". Before I got the app I had a notebook that I would keep lists in. Right now, Wunderlist contains 20 lists:


  • To Do Today
  • To Do Eventually
  • Walmart-Grocery store
  • Shopping (because that's different lol)
  • Stuff to Pay
  • Things to crochet
  • Restaurants to try
  • Movies to see
  • Menu for the week (haven't used this in a while)
  • Things to look for at the thrift store
  • Clothes I want
  • Travel plans 2017
  • Goals
  • Places to apply for employment
  • Organizations I want to give money to
  • Bills to pay next payday
  • Things I want to buy
  • Clean-ting to do
  • Things I need
  • Things to get at the Dollar Store
Yes, I realize I'm weird and probably some of these lists could be consolidated and/or eliminated! Anyway, this should be a fun and easy blog for me!

Saturday, January 14, 2017

January blog challenge

I found this on Pinterest and looked like one I haven't done before. It also looked pretty simple so I thought it would be a good place to start to resume writing again. I think it's also good for trying to focus on positive things during these next days while we're doing the 21 Days of Prayer and Fasting.


List Ideas to Lift Your Mood

  • Simple pleasures in life
  • Favorite 5 minute Activities
  • List of Compliments
  • Favorite Songs
  • Favorite Foods and Drinks
  • Motivational Quotes
  • Best Moments in Life
  • Things I'm Most Thankful For
  • Place with Fond Memories
  • Daily Affirmations
  • Prayer ListList of Jokes
  • Funny Doodles
  • Favorite Flowers
  • Favorite Gifts I've Received
  • Little Moments You loved
  • Favorite Items in Your Home
  • Mistakes That Shaped You
  • The Best Thing Abut Each Season
  • Faovrite People to Call for Mood Lift
  • List of Things you Love About Your Significant Other
Honestly, I can't see myself doing the funny doodles one. I don't doodle. Unless I come across some online. But maybe I could share some of my favorite memes on that day. We'll see!


Update and recommitment

It's been awhile since I've updated, as anyone can see. Facebook is just so much easier. But it's also getting annoying. Way too many political posts, drama, invitations to online parties for women to sell crap I don't need or want and then there are the ads! Need I say more?

Anyhoo...

Brooke graduated high school and then moved to Montevallo in the Fall to begin classes. She's doing very well and seems to be having a good time. She pledged Alpha Gamma Delta and has been busy with all the sorority activies and other things associated with college life.

Dylan got a new puppy and is looking for a new apartment. He also bought himself a project truck.

Kayti is still attending Jeff State and works at Domino's.

I have a new niece, Caroline Jade. I bought a bike and a kayak. I started taking ballroom dance lessons and resumed DanceFit classes. I have sadly put back on most of the weight I lost during cancer but I guess I enjoyed doing it! I am still so very thankful to be able to taste and swallow again!

I am now in my last semester of grad school (Praise the Lord!) and am unemployed! I was downsized in September and haven't been able to find anything new yet. I have been on a few interviews but just haven't found the right position. I want to go back into HR but having been out of it for so long has hurt. Other positions don't seem to fit because I think the manager realizes that once I get my MBA I probably won't stick around long if I were to ever be offered more money. They would be correct.

I always said that when babygirl graduated high school I would move to the beach and I have applied for a few jobs down there. But alas, I am still in Birmingham. God has been good, providing for my needs so far. But I desperately need employment!

I have become good friends with one of my neighbors and now I hate to leave her behind if I were to move. And of course, I'd hate to be farther away from my own family. But I'm thinking about maybe transitioning into my dream by way of Alabaster/Pelham. It wouldn't be too far from everyone and closer to babygirl. I just need a change. This apartment, though it has become home in the last 5 years, has issues. Last month, the plumbing flooded the living room and all the carpet had to be replaced. It also has electrical issues, needs new upstairs carpet and a few other cosmetic things. I did what I could last year and it looks much better. But I'm not putting a lot of my own money into a place that I don't own.

I have started dating again also. He's someone I met when I was still working at the law office. However, I don't date anyone I work with. When I became unemployed, we became friends on social media, started talking and went out. It kind of grew (a little) from there. It's only been a few months so I guess we'll see where it goes.

I've also started serving the homeless again but Silver Linings is no more so now I'm with a group called Hope for the Homeless. I love the leaders. They have such a heart for my downtown friends.

I also resumed serving on the Events team at church. Church is currently in the middle of the 21 Days of Prayer and Fasting. I'm doing a Daniel fast again and so far so good. I slipped last night when my neighbor friend and I decided to treat ourselves to Waffle House and talk! But I'm back on track today.

I am also pledging to resume writing. I had hoped to attend the Writer's Guild meeting today at the Clay Library but babygirl wanted to come home for the weekend and since the SUV (Steve) is currently down, I have the mustang (Miranda) and so I had to go pick her up. No big deal. I have lots of prompts and ideas in my head to get me back on track with writing. I just have to commit to do it. So this is me...recommitting.


And now you've been updated!

Blessings!

Saturday, July 30, 2016

Meh...

I'm in such a mood of blah right now I can't even come up with an appropriate title for this blog. I just feel...meh.

I hate being in limbo. Looking for another job. Waiting to move to another place. Waiting for small groups to start back. Waiting for grad school to start back. Waiting to move babygirl to the dorms. Waiting waiting waiting. I hate waiting. Patience has never been my thing and I have learned not to ask God for patience because He keeps giving me opportunities to learn patience--which I never do--instead of the actual patience.

Waiting stresses me out and makes me lazy for some reason. I have not exercised (except for dance and self-defense class) in months. All I tend to do is lie around and watch Netflix or get on social media. That can't be good. I'm not even reading. And my prayer life is at a less than stellar status. I have managed to make it to work every day, keep the house clean and laundry done. And I've managed to serve at some events--cokes on the lawn, SERVE T-shirt handout, SERVE day, Hope for the Homeless and Motion 16. But I've got to muster up some motivation to do better. I have a lot to look forward to. But I need to focus on the present and make each day count.

Wednesday, July 20, 2016

At last...a long overdue update

I don't know that anyone reads this blog anymore but if so and you've wondered if I died or dropped off the face of the Earth then the answer is no. I'm alive and kicking--literally! But more about that later.

At the last post I had gone without using my feeding tube for a few weeks but I ended up using again just before Christmas--my throat still wasn't healed enough to be able to eat much and my strength and everything was very low from lack of nutrition. But I did make it through Christmas which was nice except for the not being able to eat part.

Dylan graduated from college--ROLL TIDE--and we are all very proud. He was hired on full time by the company he was working for and found an apartment on Highland Avenue. I am thankful to have him in town at least for a little while. I wasn't ready to lose him again but I know one day he'll probably want to move to another city, possibly even another *gulp* state.

Of course, New Year's and the subsequent National Championship game was awesome. I was still unable to eat or even drink anything much except water.  But a few weeks after that, I took a roadtrip with Dylan and Jeff to Chattanooga to get lottery tickets and I didn't realize it was going to be an all day trip so I didn't pack any of my feeding tube supplies or nutritional supplements. We ended up spending the entire day in Chattanooga visiting the top of Lookout Mountain and hung around the downtown area. We toured a distillery and had lunch so I had to try and eat something. I managed to get down a fair amount of a salad and from that point on, I never needed to use my tube again.

It was still awhile before I got all my taste buds back and some things still bother me a little bit. Pizza or anything with tomato-based sauce was challenging for awhile. I still don't much care for barbeque. But as evidenced by my weight gain, I'm eating quite well now. I have put back on 30 of the 65 pounds I lost. Now I'm desperately trying not to gain anymore weight and in fact, I wouldn't mind re-losing that 30! I'm still in my size 10's and 12's but if I can't get a handle on a good nutritional plan I will be needing a bigger size soon.  I can't hardly remember what it was like to not be able to eat now. I'm glad that I can eat again and I really enjoy good food so I'm not going to stress about weight too much. Life is too short to worry too much about anything. I just want to be healthy.


Brooke graduated high school, we took a beach trip, a trip to Six Flags and life has pretty much settled back to normal. I bought a kayak but have only had it out once--at Wolf Creek in Foley. But it was fun and I plan to do more.  I got a bike and have been riding some. I've been walking and trying to work out and hike some.  But I've also been working a fair amount of overtime at work so it's been difficult to fit it all in. Sleep issues continue and it is what it is.

Met with the crochet group some this summer, too and looking forward to meeting again with them in the Fall. I finished a baby blanket for Baby Henderson, due December 2016. I did a Micky Mouse blanket for my friend's grandbaby, an afghan for my living room and some baby hats and booties for Baby Hendo, too.  I love that group of ladies and the time we spend together. As much as I am on the go go go all the time, it's nice to have an evening of just quiet conversation, food, fellowship, prayer and crochet!

We move Brooke into the dorms at Montevallo in less than a month now. Last week she went to the beach with a church group and I missed her so much more than I thought I would so I jokingly told her I decided that she needs to just stay home and go to Jeff State! Ha! It did not go over well, of course, and I told her I was kidding. I would never do anything to hold one of my kids back from spreading those wings (responsibly) but oh how I miss the days when the were little and I was their whole world. But before I get all teared up again, let me so how very proud I am of all of them. They were good kids and grew up to be amazing young adults and I'm so excited to see the next steps they each will take.

We did nix the plans on the apartment with two roommates, however. I just wasn't secure in that idea and found out the dorms at Montevallo are nowhere near as expensive as 'Bama so it was a more practical option, given the limited amount of housing in Montevallo anyway. Maybe next year we can explore other options but this year, I think it's the best way to go. She wasn't very happy about that at first but I think she now realizes it's a good decision.

As for church, I have started serving again with Silver Linings/Hope for the Homeless and have really enjoyed it. I have served with the Events team and Highlands and did a SERVE project of my own for SERVEday16 this year.  We handed out water and picked up trash around Cosby Lake.  I am not a fan of the baptist church but I'm glad Brooke enjoys going to Ridgecrest. She seems to enjoy it and I just pray that it will help her to see God's plan for her life.

Last week, I started taking Salsa dancing lessons with the singles group and also started taking a 4-week self defense class at a local martial arts gym.  I LOVE both!!! I've always loved dance and am really wanting to get back into zumba and bellydancing but it's so much fun to punch and kick that I'm also thinking about doing cage fitness!  So much to do and so little time!

One thing I have not done much of this summer is read and that makes me sad. There's so much on my list and I just can't seem to find time. Or maybe I just am not making it a priority because I got so burned out during grad school last semester. Speaking of, I finished with 2 A's and a B and I am so happy! The Management Policy class was really challenging!  For the Fall Semester I will be taking International Business and Finance.  I'm two semesters away from that MBA! I need to take my Economics equivalency test soon, though. My grade in my Economics undergraduate class was good enough to graduate with a Bachelor's but not good enough for a Master's. So they want me to either retake the class or take an equivalency test. It's not a big deal, I just need to do it instead of forget and put it off.

I am trying to get out there and date again but it's hard because---again, I don't have much time. I'm happy with the way things are right now but I do occasionally wish I had someone to take places with me, etc. I have a serious crush on one individual but I don't think he's interested in my so I'm trying to get him out of my head. But if only...:)

Anyway, that's my life right now. I love it and I'm glad to have it.


Thursday, December 3, 2015

Just random thoughts

I saw my regular doctor on Monday and she is fabulous. She adjusted my thyroid medicine, put me back on all my vitamins, adding some iodine for cancer prevention, increased my celexa and added busperone which is supposed to help with my anxiety and also will help me focus and concentrate. I'm already feeling better.

I'm getting along better with my ex, too.

Now if I can just get my knee straightened out. I wore heels to work a month or so ago and since then, the left knee has just been killing me. I got an x-ray before thanksgiving from a new orthopedic doctor and she disagreed with Dr. Nichols assertion that I needed total knee replacement. She said I'm much too young for such an aggressive surgery. She said the x-ray looks good and that it might actually be torn meniscus. That requires surgery as well but it's not as long of a recovery time. I need to get an MRI first and we are trying to postpone everything until after the first of the year. She gave me a steroid shot and it felt better for a few days but it's already worn off. I've had so many in the last 15 years they just aren't very effective for me anymore. It is time to get something done. I just hope I can hang in there a few more weeks.

I'm trying to eat more but it's hard. NOTHING tastes like it should and that makes me lose my appetite fast. They said they would not take my feeding tube out until I go for 30 day without using it AND don't lose anymore weight. So I'm trying not to use it and haven't in about 2 weeks. But the losing weight part I am going to fail. I never ever in my life thought I would have a problem keeping weight on. And it's not like I'm skinny (yet). I've lost about 45 pounds. But I absolutely cannot tolerate sugar or bread. Anything sweet just makes me sick. I can't even get past the first few bites. I've been without sugar for so long I just can't stand it anymore.  As for bread, I just don't have enough saliva to help break it down and dissolve it. So without sugar or bread, I'm pretty much low carbing which has my body in ketosis=losing weight. I'm not trying to. I just am. I used to would have killed to be able to do this but now...

I want to be able to eat again. I love that I've dropped a few sizes. But I miss food and the social life I had that revolved around it. I hate not being able to eat this holiday season, go out to eat with friends, family, etc. I don't even want to do any baking or cooking right now. What's the point?

I need my mouth to heal faster. I just don't have patience for this cancer crap!

Saturday, November 28, 2015

Six weeks post treatment

Not sure why I feel the need to write this down. Everyone already knows I have been a complete mess for the past few weeks. I am not sure what happened to me. Maybe a combination of things but me or my doctors have yet to figure it out.

I can't get back the feelings I had when I was first diagnosed--thankful, blessed, ready to fight, just pure contentment in whatever the Lord had in store for me. I've gone from that to feeling nothing but hopelessness and I don't know why. I survived. I had the surgery and completed my treatment. I'm waiting to get a clean scan but all my doctors assure me it will be clean, that they are just wanting a "picture" of what they want me to look like going forward. So I'm not worried that I still have cancer.

I am worried that one day it will come back because this type of cancer ALWAYS comes back. It may be a few years. It may be 15-20. But one day, I'll have to go through this all over again and for the rest of my life, I'll have to be closely monitored. The knowledge of all that stresses me out. I'm ALWAYS going to have to take off work and go to some appointment. And I don't care how compassionate employers are or try to be, they still hate hiring people that aren't 100% healthy.

And speaking of employers, my job isn't going so well. I wasn't ready to go back to work when I did but I had no choice about it. My finances dictated I go back. In fact, my finances are dictating so much of my stress right now, I've been down this road SO many times in my life that in many ways, I should know that I will get it straightened out somehow but also I should know how to prevent this from happening so much! I have a degree in finance for the love of Pete. I should be more financially secure than I am. I have to keep reminding myself that it's only been 5 years since I've been completely on my own and that I have come a long way. I still just have so much further to go and at the age of 45 it irritates me.

So I went back to work. Keep in mind, I only started this job in February. I got ONE day to train and then was on my own. I had no clue. I did the best I could. Then not even six months later, I got my diagnosis, had my surgery and started treatment. I hung in there the best I could through all the changes in the firm and our department and my treatment. Then I had to go on leave because my body couldn't take it anymore. I come back to work to MORE changes and things I have no clue about and when I can't perform (who could after all this?), I get a bad review. And again--I haven't even been there a year yet.

What kind of employer does that? I left thinking I had their support but came back to find that I really need to be going elsewhere as soon as possible.  And I STILL HAVE appointments etc. to work around with an unsympathetic supervisor. It's incredibly stressful.

So I think about my financial issues and I start to panic. And I push my ex. He was SO good to me during my treatment it made me feel like I STILL  loved  him and wish I had never left him in the first place.  And we still have these three amazing kids together. And we still have things in common. So we still spend time together.

But I'm scared to death--scared of financial ruin, scared of starting over, scared of my cancer coming back, scared of the kids growing up and being gone, scared of being alone. And I panic. And I push. HUGE mistake. I pushed him away and now I just have this desperate feeling that I just need to be around him to feel calm.

I don't know and I know I'm rambling. And my counselor says this is all normal when you get cancer. You wonder how different things would be if you still had your family. And don't get me wrong, my mom, sisters and friends all rallied around me when I was going through treatment and it was amazing. And Jeff was wonderful and he gave me hope. But somehow it still didn't look like I thought it would have, especially if I had still been married.

I know I should feel grateful and I do. But I also can't shake this hopeless feeling. Not right now. I'm trying. I've lost control a few times and hurt people that I love. I don't want to do that. I don't want to be a crazy lunatic bitch. I want to be a good person. A person that attracts people. A person that others want to be around. Right now I think most people are afraid of me.

I wonder if the radiation destroyed the effectiveness of my anti-depressants. Or if it's messed up my hormones. Or if it has something to do with the vitamin regimen that I was on pre-cancer and they took me off of because it was counter-productive to the radiation. I see my doctor Wednesday and I can't wait to tell her all this and pray that she can help in some way. I don't have time for the nutrition and holistic stuff to work. I'm under so much pressure and need something that will work now. It may be a quick fix. But until I have the time to fix it for real, that's what I need.

Please pray for me. Pray that I will get the answers and help I need from the doctor. Pray that I can stop feeling so emotional an hopeless all the time. Pray that God will speak to my children's hearts and let them know how much  I love them and that I need them right now.  That I want to be a mom they can be proud of. That I will get it together and hopefully soon. PLEASE pray these things for me.