When I was growing up in the go-go 80's, AIDS had just surfaced and while it may have taken the rest of the world awhile to catch on the practice of safe sex, it didnt take long for parents of teenagers to scare.
Being the oldest of three girls, my mother, who ironically was a flower-child feminist, beat it in my head that sex was something you saved for when you were MUCH older and REALLY in love and ready to make that commitment and take on such responsibility.
I noticed she stopped short of saying "wait till you're married" like many of my friends' parents were doing (in vain I might add! Many, many of the church-going good girls were VERY active!)
Another argument I remember my mother using was that most of society thinks its okay for boys/men to screw around while if girls afford themselves the same opportunities for pleasure, they are labeled sluts and whores. (aka "hoes" as the term is presently).
She was right about that for the most part. I did run across quite a few young men at the time that thought if a girl gave it up even once, you were ruined.
All religion aside, what was so special about virginity? I wondered...and still do. I mean, who wants to fumble around in the dark not knowing what you're doing, then after a few thrusts and "ouch...stop...you do love me, right?" its over.
And no, that is not a rendition of my own first experience. It was special. But I think a big part of why it was special was because it was the first time. Looking back, I think it could have been anywhere, anybody, anytime and it would be special largely because it WAS the first time. Just like my first trip to the beach, my first ice cream cone, my first ride on a big-girl bike. There's something near and dear about "firsts". But we all can't be everybody's first. Especially not now that we're older!
And as time has went by and we've learned to be a little more careful and selective of sexual partners, our attitudes have changed somewhat on such matters. Or have they?
Is it still more acceptable for a man to have a higher number of sexual partners than it is for women?
Why is our society still seemingly willing to believe the myth that its only a man that has "urges"?
And what is an acceptable "number"? This girl needs to know before hers gets "too high"!
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Who the hell cares what everyone else thinks! Although public opinion can be hurtful. It remains just that, an opinion. If you want it, go for it! You should always consider the consequences of your actions, whether they come from within or others. Make sure the juice is worth the squeeze! Love ya, your long time hoe friend!
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